Cell Phone Agreement For Child

One mother put it this way: “The treaty experience was a failure for us. Our daughter is now seen by an anxiety psychologist on social media. The only thing that works is that I am more involved. We took the data from her phone (more social media) and she only checks the texts a few times a day, if I allow her to. It proved that it could not do it alone; The treaty made things worse. 5. On a practical level, smartphone contracts work about as well as these task charts. Focus on building real social skills. Give them the chance to maximize the real social capacities that better prepare them for the world ahead of us. Instead of spending time with apps to monitor their smartphones and social media, you`ll spend more time planning more frequent social gatherings at home to schedule time with your friends personally (non-technical). Don`t wait for them to take the lead on this issue. It will initially be complicated, but the best gift you can give your teen is the opportunity to develop a depth of valuable skills in person. As a good coach, you have to keep the lines of authority clear.

In our culture of disrespect, the new normality of a “phone in every teenager`s womb” has not helped our teens respect their elders, parents or authority. The telephone contract transfers the power of the parent to the adolescent and further undermines this guidance line. We need rules and limits, not a treaty. Family conflicts multiply when telephone contracts are broken. I`ve heard too many heartbreaking stories about how the failure of the telephone contract caused alienation, lies, mistrust and deep-seated pain between teens and parents. For some, the damage seems irreparable. Eric Goldfield, a Charlotte, NC advisor says, “I never recommend contracts for screen management. There is a level of naïve naivety of parents if they think that contracts will keep their children on the right track; They hope for a responsibility, but they have consequences. Children know that they do not have to follow the treaty because there is no way to impose it. There is no investment to end because they know that their parents cannot track their telephone activities.

The parent gives all the power back to the child with a contract. Contracts are not for children. That is one of the reasons why no company — including smartphone companies — lets children sign them. Your teen has a remarkable ability to achieve great performance, but running a phone is not one of them. Unfortunately, the field of executive function of the brain is the last that is mature, and that is what smartphone management requires. You may be impressed by the hours spent writing this elegant legal brief to convince yourself why they are mature enough for a smartphone, but don`t be fooled. IQ has nothing to do with the need to use the smartphone: maturity, impulse control and the ability to resist temptations and manage risks, to name a few. Smartphones, configured with built-in distractions, temptations and traps for collecting personal data, were not designed for the well-being of a teenage girl. (Even two major investors in Apple say the tech giant should do more to curb the growing addiction of mobile phones.) In addition, smartphone contracts establish a dangerous way of thinking that gives parents a false sense of security and gives teenagers a false sense of power. Yes, I know that hundreds of recently developed apps now allow parents to monitor a child`s mobile use – these apps can tell how many times they check their phone or if they look at their phone when they`re behind the wheel; they can send you all the texts he receives (or only those with a list of offensive words) and every page he surfs.

But managing these monitoring or software applications consumes hours of a parent day not to mention the time you spend with